Monday, September 3, 2012

? 50 Shades of "Kinky Fuckery" ?

Having just completed Book 2, I am still trying to figure out what all the fuss has been about. Uhm, yeah there is plenty of sex and some of it you might call adventuresome and playful, but none of it has been mind boggling or mind blowing. Could be I am not easily impressed. Could be I am not lacking in that department. Could be these things aren't so off the wall to my way of thinking. Who knows? I'm not telling! :)

I have enjoyed these books so far, in as much as I enjoy anything most people would call a Summer Beach Reads. There is more to them than sex and the wary dance of Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele still getting to know each other after such an ugly break up is sweet to follow along.

C.G. is a man with a wounded psyche. Though a man of money in this story, he did not enter the world as such. Hideous things were done to him as a small boy and while he was rescued and adopted into a loving family, he carried a low sense of self worth into adulthood. He has long sought to find a way to mend himself, though he has only just found someone who challenged his way of thinking enough for him to realize he has value to those around him.

A.S. has had so little worldly experience and yet she seems to naturally want to help C.G. learn that he is truly loved and cherished both by his family and her. The reality of this is most evident following a time when he has gone missing and everyone is gathered together fearing the worst but hoping for the best outcome. When he encounters this group of people upon his return, he is overwhelmed by the knowledge that he matters much more than he ever imagined. Here it seems he finally has the epiphany I was waiting and hoping for.

The kinky fuckery, (this hilarious phrase could not go unacknowledged!), may have been part of who C.G. was before, but now he is feeling freedom from its hold. There are parts of the sexual pleasures that he once practiced in mature and agreeable forms with consenting adult women that A.S. wishes to learn about and participate in with him, both for herself and for him. That to me defies the outcry from many about the nature of this book, She WANTS to know about what she enjoys and is WILLING, with restrictions, to try some of those things. That shows love, curiosity, willingness to try new things and daring to follow through. This is not a woman dominated by a man this is a woman dominated by love for a man. That is a far cry from the ugliness many would have had us believe that this series is really about.

I challenge those people who cannot see past the fact that sex is a major portion of the story line to rethink and reconsider that as such a negative. After all, how many who are condemning these books have a long history of watching Daytime Soaps and nighttime "Soap" dramas of yore (Dallas, Falcon Crest etc...) many mainstream movies? Hell, a significant number of the books they read are probably no better or worse.

Personally, I think that the women who are enamored of this series are so simply because they dream of being loved like they are the center of someone's while universe. It isn't a far cry from the relationships most of us experienced in High School. Emotionally those relationships are extremely intense. New and young love is always like that. These stories evoke that kind of emotion and it is one I think we all miss from our youth. Sure, some of those relationships sucked rotten eggs in every way possible and some were mighty alrighty with the fair to middlin's in there for good measure, but that doesn't mean that as adults we don't occasionally feel misty for that simpler love. HAHA, I know simpler sounds funny, but in comparison to what we know now and what we knew then, I truly believe it was simpler!


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